Manifesting and the Law of Attraction - "Why isn't it working for me??"

Since the movie "The Secret" (and for many of us, well before that) we have seen so much information and hype regarding the Law Of Attraction. And while many of us understand the concept behind manifesting our desires, we still find it difficult to get the things we want. I have heard many people say "Oh that just doesn't work!" Your right! With that outlook it won't! You have already set yourself up for failure without even trying.

The Law Of Abundance starts from within, our internal scripting, our core beliefs. And if you want your life to change then you have to change along with it. the first step is taking responsibility for why your manifesting is not working. It's not down to other people! it's down to you! Here is an example:

A couple decide to try this Law Of Attraction thing. One is all for it, the other is skeptical of it. But they try it nonetheless. After a week of one putting all their effort into it and nothing happening, tension ensues. One partner blames the other for blocking their intention work withtheir own negativity, placing the blame on someone else. OK stop right there! The person doing the blaming has not grasped a big lesson in manifestation work. YOU ARE IN CONTROL! NO ONE CAN BLOCK YOUR PROGRESS....unless you let them. If manifesting work could be easily blocked by negativity then none of us would be able to do it because you are always going to have negative people out there. Does that mean that all those naysayers can block our manifestation work? NO!

By placing the blame on someone else's negativity, you have just done what you tell others not to do. You have given your control away. You have set up a negative vibe of "Won't work because..." and in the back of your mind you are sending negative thoughts to the Universe without even realizing it. Everyone doesn't have to be "on board" for it work. It's not about converting people tobelieve. Manifestation work is about you and your relationship with the Universe , your creation partner. All you do by blaming others is create a negative atmosphere for the other person who then feels they don't want to bother. Show by example! You will get more people to work with you effectively if you show YOU can do it.

the biggest block I found in manifestation work revolves around feelings and the emotions. You have to FEEL that you already have what you want. If you are sending out a message in desperation like "I NEED more money" you are only creating a vibe of lack, which is what the Universe picks up. You see our good old creation partner will do everything it can to get us what we want. But they only work on feelings, not words. So when you ask for more money but send that "lacking" vibe, guess what your gonna get back?

Ok, it's not easy to sit there and feel you are financially stable when you have bills to pay, I know this from experience. And this is where many people hit a brick wall and give up. But it is so very important to do this because we then start changing an inner script inside of us. We start looking at things more positively over time and when we aren't all stressed out by our thoughts of lack, we become calm, and then we can see what is going on around us a bit better.

So back to feeling the emotions. Get rid of the words "NEED, WANT, HAVE TO" - they just indicate lack. Instead of "I need more money" change it to "I choose to experience a continual flow of abundance and am thankful for all I do have". BUT, you need to put the emotion behind it for the Universe to pick up and send back. It won't help if you state this and don'tbelieve it. So picture yourself receiving what you asked for and how it feels to have it. That's right! Feel like you have all you need andbelieve it!

Ever notice how quickly the bad things we don't want seem to manifest? Do you not realize how quickly the good things can manifest as well? Problem is so many of us are too focused on the WHEN and HOW of it. Which brings me to the next lesson I learned.

It is your job to be the master creator. And it is the Universe's job to be the one who makes it all work! When you try to picture how it will happen you limit the possibilities of manifesting. So if you are saying "I choose to have money for my vacation through a bonus in work" You have just limited your creation partners means of getting that cash to you! Now if you would have said "I choose to have money for my vacation" just like that, this opens the doors for more ways for it to happen.

Act like you have what you want as well. If you are wishing for more abundance but depriving yourself of things then again you are sending out that lack vibe. I don't mean go out and blow your savings here either. Just don't be afraid to turn on the heating because you don't know how the bill will be paid. Turn it on and know that it will be taken care of when it is time.

Sometimes we focus on something we think we need. But deep down we sabotage ourselves because it's not what we really want. For example a person taking a job that deep down doesn't make them happy but it's what they feel the should do. And over time things don't go right in that job because deep down it's not what they wanted. The emotion to succeed is not there. So make sure the things you are asking for are truly things you desire!

Another problem is fear. Fear of success, of lots of money, etc.. Write down the thing you desire. Write down all the good stuff you will get out of having this thing. Then write down the possible drawbacks. those are your blocks. For example:

"I choose to experience a successful career" - what are the fears that come from that? Too much responsibility. Longer and harder hours maybe? Or maybe you fear letting others down if it doesn't work out? So you get to a point where some change or project can bring you success and then it falls apart at the last minute. Why? Because you imagined your desire up to this point and then the fears kicked in! Change those negatives into something more positive to add to your desire. "I choose to experience asuccessful career with my own hours, easy and fun projects, and I know those I love will be proud of me. In fact they already are" (That last sentence just reinforces that it doesn't matter what happens, you already have what you desire)

The thing to remember is that The Law Of Attraction is not going to be a magical overnight change. You have to change a bit here too. The one thing that changed my experiences and feelings toward manifesting was a book a friend told me to buy. When she told me about it I was like "Oh no not another book on the Law Of Attraction" but she insisted. And while I thought about it the book got mentioned a few other times so to me that was a sign. And I bought it. And it really changed how I saw things. I realized I was missing an integral part of manifesting and this book gave examples and broke it down into bits I could understand! I got excited about it! I started practicing and got immediate results with the little tests I was doing.

The book is called "Excuse me, your life is now" by Doreen Banaszak.(http://www.your-life-is-now.com/)

I got mine on Amazon for a fiver but it is worth its weight in gold to me!

New Blog - ShadowFae Tarot

I decided to start a new blog called ShadowFae Tarot. My first series of posts are for beginner Tarot readers! Come check it out

http://shadowfaetarot.blogspot.com/

Boo turns 40!

Thats right! Today is my 40th birthday! And I embrace it with love, hope, and a sense of adventure. Too often I have heard people moan and groan as they approach their 40th birthday. They say turning 40 is one of the key psychological milestones in a person’s life, when they re-evaluate where they have been, where they are, and evaluate who they are and where they want to be going. And it has, indeed been a time of reflection for me lately as well. I had quite a journey since last year and have come pretty far.

I'm still not sure what I want to be when I grow up but I do know it involves being happy and helping others while still keeping my boundaries.

I don't fret at the thought that I am 40 and single anymore. I learned, over the past few months, that I have many people who love me and that means so much more. Companionship will eventually come.

For now I look forward to what this new chapter in my life holds and what new stories I can write for myself.

Bring it on Universe!

Dream Thread...

I have been pondering starting a kind of dream thread for myself just to keep track of some of the more prominent ones I get from time to time. Sometimes it just helps to write it down and then look at it again - I can see something that I didn't see before.

You can find it here: http://boosdreams.blogspot.com/

The Mental Breakdown of an Intuitive/Empath...yes we have them too

I came home after another tiring day of tedious appointments and errands. For the past week I have felt "on edge". In tune with something far bigger than myself and my own little situations and activities. This is not unusual. Being who I am and what I am...I get it a lot. You should have been around me a few days before 9/11 happened...or the morning of...before it all blew up (no pun intended there). I was desperate to keep my family home and indoors because I felt this impending doom and could not fathom why.

And doing the work I do, people seem to expect me to be their psychic eyeballs. Something big in the world goes wrong and it's all about them and how it will affect thier little corner of the universe. They pay no thought for how it is affecting ALL OF US and not just them.

Anyway back to today. I found myself wishing I could be oblivious to it all. I wished I was not intuitive, empathic, tuned in to earth and Spirit, or receiving messages. I wish no one knew I did healing or readings some days. It feels like a burden lately. And I am so sick to my back teeth of people wanting me to "see" for them. People who think it's my responsibility to find the way forward and guide them all the time. And these are just people out of the blue...(not my clients whom I cherish because they "get" it! They understand and many of them want things to be better all around) ...like they expect that since I do it I am always "tuned in") "Can you see this?", "What do you feel about..." "Should I go ahead and do...." - what next? "Should I wipe my own arse or have so and so do it??"

It isn't everyone mind you and I have some cherished friends who give so much to the world in the work they do through advice, therapy, counseling, healing...I don't mind them asking me to "tune in" because they will accept there are days I just can't. And they don't abuse it! It's just people who give nothing back, who choose to live in oblivion and not care about anything but their own little corner of the world and make their issues top priority and every one else's "problem". And they do nothing at all to make it better...even in their little corner! But they want everyone else to stop what they are doing and cater to them.

Or those who, I haven't figured out if they are oblivious, ignorant, arrogant, or what..are so "head up their own arses" that they make comments like "Oh I guess Global Warming must be slowing down now (because they didn't get 6 feet of snow this year) ...as another major piece of an ice shelf is cracking off and heading towards oblivion....and several countries are now struggling with drought, and several countries are now having issue with maybe not having enough food because of severe weather (and no these are not 3rd world countries!! Texas announced a bad hit in it's wheat crop for 2009 folks! It's real!) And the thousands who can't get jobs at the moment all over the world...not just in your stinking little corner of it in Bum Feck nowhere. So pardon me if I have not much sympathy for someone who had to go on benefits and can't afford thier luxury nail treatments for a while or can't go to the pub every other night while other families are struggling to keep food on their tables who ARE working!

I am not a "doomsayer" and quite frankly I don't agree that it's the End Of The World As We Know it. It's called change. It's called Mother Earth cleansing herself and expelling the eons of crap we have spilled down her throat. And yes it will be catastrophic in some ways...but with it will come a new beginning. I don't see 2012 being the end all of it all either.....

I got off track again. Ok so I have my own little life stuff going on and I can cope there. I have people around me bombarding me with their stuff on top of my stuff...ok less easier to cope. I also have the crappy "feelings", tenseness, knowing something is going to happen, seeing things unfolding and not being able to stop them...feeling it's on my shoulders to "DO" something because it's why I am here on this path (and in my heart I want to help where I can!) but not knowing what to do. And I feel sooo tired of it lately. Some of you are probably saying "So just stop doing it"

WRONG ANSWER! I CAN'T! I can't flick a switch and make it go away. I can't bury my head in the sand and ignore what is happening all around me. What I want is to be able to refocus my energy back on the things that matter, that will make a difference. Giving someone some spiritual advice that opens their eyes and makes them want to fight for themselves again rather than being asked to "see" what someones ex is doing that left them 6 years ago. How is that healthy and helpful??? I want to continue to do the energy work I do like "firing the grid" and helping people release those blocks that keep them from being their true selves!

My nerves feel like they are stretched to breaking point...and that's not even due to my own day to day stuff I am coping with...and I say coping because my own stuff is not really bothering me so much! Do you know I have had 3 repetitive dreams about the singer Peter Gabriel dying??? Yeah...I see a newspaper with big black letter saying "Singer Peter Gabriel has died" - And if he actually does...what was the point of me dreaming it??? Are my own guides now messing with me?? If he doesn't no big deal...must have been some bad cheese before bed...

How do I find that balance again to be able to help and do the work I so love without getting so damn frustrated with the pettiness, arrogance, and ignorance around me? I seem to not be getting answers lately from my guides...heh here's a thought...maybe they feel about me the way I feel about other people!? That's an eye opener. So maybe them stepping back is their way of forcing me to find a way to create balance so I am in control again....I just want to sleep :(

I must sound mental...but boy do I feel better now..

Wycked Red is back!

Yes, I've done it again! Went and changed my hair colour back to what is first was...deep dark vampire red. I feel more like me now. I seem to have gone through an identity crisis of sorts over the past year, changing my look and the way I wanted to project myself to the world. The black hair was during a time I felt dark, spooky, mysterious, and troubled. Then one day I looked at myself and said...that's not me anymore. I want something mellow and vibrant. So I went with that bronzy brown, summer look. Yeah that was ok but I still felt it wasn't who I was. In the end I came back to what I have been all these years. Vibrant, a bit crazy, fun, mysterious, spiritual, and beautiful...inside and out!

Look out world...Wycked Red is back!

Just "BE"

I had one of those epiphany moments at my therapy session recently. One of those moments where you realize something profound that changes the way you see yourself and the world around you. You probably could hear the "pop" of me pulling my head out of the sand and seeing the light for the first time in ages.

You see I spent a good chunk of my life searching for something. Searching for a purpose, my purpose...my reason for being here. As if I had to prove my worth to exist on this planet. Funny thing is, I could never stand other people who HAD to have a goal, a purpose, a direction. I mean having those things is great! Don't get me wrong. It's when it becomes an obsession and a person can never be happy with just "being".

I know so many people who are always running their lives at break neck speeds, never stopping, never enjoying the beauty of everyday life. So focused on their goals and not failing that they let time, people, love, and joy pass them by. So what if you fail! It's the journey there, the experiences that count. I have always been surrounded by people who had to have a purpose, a career, a major life goal, and those same people would look down on me because I really didn't know what I wanted. I had no real goal. I just wanted to be happy!

And that is the epiphany - what if my purpose on this earth is just that...to be happy? To be my Mom to my little boy? To cherish those special moments, appreciate the little things. To be happy within and let my inner light glow and spread to all those I touch in life. Even if it is only to make a stranger I pass in the street smile by saying hello! Even better...let people bask in the glow of my own inner peace and happiness! And in turn they look within and realize something special about themselves, and they smile, and continue the process of passing on that little gift....now THAT is wonderful purpose. And the great thing is...I don't have to sacrifice my life, happiness, stability to do this. I don't have to rush, fret, stress, or worry about failing!

All I have to do is BE....