On what planet???

Do people think it is ok to drag you into their own drama and disrespect your privacy and personal boundaries?? I seem to be encountering that a lot lately. It started with "friends" who seemed to think that just because I don't piss and moan about my life and some of the obstacles I have faced, that my life must be better than theirs. And in that misconception they think it is ok to dump their issues on my doorstep. Then when I place boundaries or don't accept their issues, and place that responsibility back on them...they get angry! They huff off and call you a bad friend! Actually a good friend is someone who doesn't fix it for you but tries to help you find the tools to fix it yourself, thus making you a stronger individual.

Today though was the icing on the cake for me. I have been single since May and restructuring and healing my life after a relationship collapsed. A couple, two mutual friends, seemed to think it was ok to dig up "dirt" on my ex and present this to me in the beginning. I told them at that time that his past "dirt" was not my problem, nor were the situations that some people seemed unable to get over. One of these included a child in question which one side says is his and another side says is not. HEY FOLKS! It's called a DNA test...solves all your queries!

Anyway at that time these people tried to drag me into that drama, insisting I should meet this ex person of his and I told them then, that I had no interest, and wanted nothing to do with it. It had nothing to do with me. Things went quiet.

then today I find a message from said ex female asking me for my ex's details so "his daughter" could meet him because she was "desperate" to meet her Daddy. One wonders why now? And how is a 5 year old desperate to meet a man she does not know unless the adults involved had a hand in it? I then found it was said mutual friends who encouraged her to contact me, after I told them i wanted no part. I was furious! On what planet do you disrespect a persons boundaries and privacy like that. On what planet do you try to drag a woman, who is healing from the demise of a relationship amongst other things, into a pissing match that has nothing at all to do with her!?

So I sent a message back to all parties and made it clear: Do not involve me. I am not with him anymore. His past discrepancies, if they are true, have nothing to do with me. You want closure, contact child services and get a damn DNA test! But most importantly....get on with your life and leave me out of it!

Ah the joys of the holidays!